You Might Be The Reason.

"People say everything happens for a reason. These people are usually women, and these women are usually sorting through a break-up. It seems that men can get out of a relationship without even a 'goodbye', but apparently, women have to either get married or learn something."

--Carrie Bradshaw--

Now, I am not a big fan of Sex and the City, but there are somethings I definitely agree with and this is one of them. Looking at Facebook and AIM on a daily basis, you will never fail to see a girl have in her profile,on her status or away message, something about things happen for a reason. Is this an emotional tool to help women feel better about themselves? Also, why are most women so astonished when a male actually is not that into you? I am not sure what it is, but I would love to find out. Everytime this happens I feel women have to ask a million questions. Questions that should not even pop up. Questions that there are really no answers to. Questions that do nothing but make a simple situation, a hundred times worst and full of unnecessary drama. How? Why? Does it really matter?

Sometimes I feel this is a self-esteem issue with some women. Like they need a validation or to understand why they are not accepted. When these questions are answered, why is it that they are never satisfied with the answer and just become more and more hurt by what they wanted to know. I really don't understand this irrational frame of mind. I just know that this type of behavior and reaction does nothing but make women unattractive and many times confirms a guy's decision to break things off. Pretending like you do not care does not work either. If you are hurt that is perfectly natural, just do not make that hurt a pain for everyone around you, especially to the person who was trying to do right by you by letting you know things are not going to work out.

Yes, it is obvious all things happen for a reason. But do not state that quote and search for that reason. Searching for a reason, makes that thought a cop out and a band aid for your hurt. It is quite possible that that reason is you, and you may not be able to deal with the realization that you are not wanted. So sometimes you just have to deal with what has been dealt to you and move on. Lots of time, moving on will make things better for you anyways.